The song starts with a slow drum beat and a long “appachchi” . Stretched enough to capture in the length , breath and the tone , the love , the awe , the affection and thousand other feelings one would have when addressing , thinking about one’s father. (May be I am wrong , but the two syllable “dad” does not quite cut it for me).
While the whole song was brilliant . Four lines from the lyrics stood up for me , and below them mind flashes that lit in my head.
ඒ ගිනි ගෙන අපේ උණුහුම සාදවා - Soaking up the heat to give warmth
Picture a man, who has toiled the day .
Maybe a man who works for for day’s pay . Yes picture such a man.
Him coming home after work with a ton of problems and mere handful of cash to sort it all out.
Picture him hugging each of his children at the wooden gate and handing over a few toffees from his top pocket and walking towards the house holding their hands.
සද්ද නොකර ලොවේ අරුත කියා දුන් - In silence he teaches the lessons of life
A father and son sits in the veranda . The son is newly married , and lives nearby . This evening , unnecessary words were exchanged . The cause and reason of the argument were insignificant as in most arguments. Words were exchanged , emotions flared up, hearts were broken , tears fell a door was slammed loud , and now a lost, (yet still somewhat irate) man sits in the safest place he knows. The verandah of his childhood home.
Earlier the mother has whispered
“ පුතාලා රණ්ඩුවෙලා , අන්න ඇවිල්ලා ඉන්නවා “ (The children have argued and he is here)
and the father has poured a glass of water and come and come and sat at his planters chair.
For a long half an hour he has sat there silently .
The father has not been much of a talker . He has preferred to resolve issues with silence .
පුතා කෑම ටිකක් කාලා යන්න ඉන්න ” (Son wait for dinner) a mother tells loud from the kitchen . That is her instinct to guard her brood over any outsiders , still alive.
At that point the father looks up
“පුතා ගෙදර යන්න දුව බලාගෙන ඇති බඩගින්නේ ” “Son you go home , your wife must be waiting for you without eating”
The young man realizes it is more than a suggestion . It is a command , it is a solution , it is wisdom , and without the earlier period of silence it would not have made that much sense
අපි වෙනුවෙන් සංසාරේ වන්දනාවේ නැවතිච්චි- For us he stopped in his pilgrimage of samsara
“ පුතා කාමරේට යන්න , මටයි සීයාටයි කතා කරන්න තියෙනවා “
Son go to the room , I need to talk with Grand pa .
A mother sends a curious 7 year old away so that she can talk in privacy.
“ අප්පච්චි මහන වෙන්න ගියාම අපිට මොකද වෙන්නේ ”
Dad when you become a monk what would happen to us
“පොඩි දූ , මම තනියම උඹලව උස මහත් කළා. දැන් මගේ යුතුකම් කරලා ඉවරයි . ඉතින් මට බණක් භාවනාවක් කර ගන්න ඕනේ ."”
Daughter , I have done my duties . Now it is the time for me to devote time towards spiritual things
ඉතින් ඔය භාවනා ගෙදර ඉඳන් බැරිද අප්පච්චි ? අනික අප්පච්චි මහන උනාම කෝ මට අප්පච්චි කෙනෙක්
So can’t you do that at home ? When you become a monk , I loose my dad
She knows she sounds like a little girl hanging on her fathers hand . Then that is what she is , her father’s little girl. She feels it is good that this conversation is over the phone , lest her father would see her tears .
But ofcourse he sees . And Seeya knows, he has to stay.
PS: May be it is because I am counting down the days for my visit home , this song hit me deep , and cried out to write something
And here is the link for the song